Consistency is a love language. It separates the opportunists from the committed.
I wrote that quote because I believe that inconsistency is a form of emotional abuse. Don’t let people near your heart with this toxic behavior.
People loved the quote so much that I also put it on a t-shirt for you.
You shouldn’t have to wonder which version of someone you’re going to get from one day to the next. They should offer you the best of themselves on a regular basis. You deserve a steady love, not someone who’s up and down, hot and cold.
Actions speak louder than words, but patterns of behavior speak loudest.
For me, it doesn’t matter what you do—if not done consistently, it won’t resonate with me as love.
If you agree, consistency may be one of your love languages, too.
Sending mixed signals is a potent control tactic because you don’t know what to think or how to act. You try to please the other person so they’ll keep giving you good, loving messages. When they start behaving differently, it makes you wonder what you’ve done wrong.
If a person is consistently inconsistent, the behavior is likely to be conscious.
Anyone can “act right” sometimes. However, the key is whether or not they can behave that way consistently. If their feelings aren’t genuine, they can’t. They won’t.
Consistency is a love language.